I hear ya!
I didnt really know what i was doing when i first started so one of the nepenthes i ordered was a vieillardii which has a reputation for being kinda weird and not growing well for a lot of people. Luckily though, I havent killed any of them yet! though the bellii is stalled out as a tiny little plant cause of a fungal issue that started because i potted it in the wrong mix.
anyway, after that initial hiccup, i started on to some ventricosa, alata and miranda and built up from there. That is definitely what i should have done from the start